It's not where you go..

I've usually held firm to the belief that it's not WHERE you go but WHO you go with. I still believe in this highly but last night taught me something.. where you go can still have quite an effect on you and the lime.

Started off in a popular resturant/bar having a couple drinks and shit talking with a best friend, met a couple lovely ladies (friends as well though :( ) and limed a little while longer. Then another group of friends came and said they were going to this other lounge place that is renown for being stoosh and.. high class(?). One of the girls with us said it'd be boring and she hasn't heard anything great about the place, but I always wanted to at least check it out, so I hit her the 'it's not who you go with' line and we were on our way.

real kix to get there, even walking towards the place.. but as soon as I stepped onto the compound I felt a little suffocated. Perhaps it was the nice little sign telling me what I should wear to be respectable in their establishment.. quite within their right.. or perhaps it was the immediate and almost deafening stares by the patrons who were already there, all clustered around one table (because there was only one big group of people there). Managed to make my way to the bar feeling a bit uncomfortable but still determined to take the place in.

Went to the bathroom, which was really nice btw.. came back out and had a drink (coke). Got it in a pretty glass and made a joke with the nice female bartender.. figured things weren't so bad. Still that suffocating feeling never quite left me. It DID diminish greatly once I started shit talking with my ppls but I always felt this tension in the back of my mind or perhaps my spine.
One of my friends was gonna do some antic or the other and was told promptly (by another friend) 'nooo. do NOT do that here! not HERE!' and it's that kinda thing I'm talking about.. I don't like when the vibe or mood or even policy of a place dictates how I can have my fun.. it's pretty dumb. But then again it was our decision to go there so it's not like I could complain.

Needless to say I don't think I'll be going back to that place again anytime soon. I'll stick to my usual places where I can have my fun in my way without having to feel like I'll get hard stares and be asked to leave.